The Parent Seat Video

Last Updated: 10/13/2020 1:19 AM

The Parent Seat Video


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In this seat, the pressure is high. And for this season, this is your seat.

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The National Federation of State High School associations would like to thank you for supporting your child in learning positive, lifelong lessons by participating in Interscholastic activities. As a parent, there are many feelings and emotions that you will experience during your students participation in Interscholastic activities. While watching your student participate, you can experience the entire emotional spectrum from sheer joy to utter disappointment at the same time, for students who are motivated to be part of a team, it can be an enjoyable and rewarding experience for everyone. Sitting in the parents seat requires thought and discipline, it is not an easy seat. The parent seat is a place for you and your students want to create enjoyable memories, not experiences filled with inappropriate language or unsporting behavior. The one who suffers most from these experiences is your child. Negative parent behaviors can be embarrassing to your student and damaging to your relationship as their biggest fan. This is the last thing you want.

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Here are 10 suggestions to help you with the emotions that arise in the parent seat. One, developing awareness. Recognizing that you may be part of the problem in the stands is the first step to addressing. This in itself can be challenging, as typically you are the last one to know if you're a part of the problem. To understand the benefits, recognize the benefits that participation in Interscholastic activities provides your students Interscholastic activities provide a platform that promotes fitness the opportunity to be part of a team and community can improve your students confidence and provides an opportunity to learn new skills and improve current skills. Three, embrace the growth and development of your students. By participating in activities, your student will have many opportunities to learn life lessons that will help him or her as they transition into adulthood. Taking a hands off approach at times can be difficult for parents, but also rewarding for both the student and the parent. It can allow the student to gain confidence and independence to deal with their own obstacles. And many times this independence can be one of the most important challenges to strengthen and trust in your relationship. Knowing that your student is struggling can bring some comfort because it is evidence that your student is on a path to adulthood. For visualize yourself as a respectful spectator. Many studies indicate that the number one reason kids participate in sports and activities is to have fun. Please keep that top of mind in perspective throughout the school year. Emphasize to your students that they should enjoy the experience and above all, have fun. Understanding and communicating this perspective can provide balance and support when it is needed the most. And ensure a fun and enjoyable Interscholastic experience for your child. Five, consider exercising before the event. Exercising doesn't necessarily mean a 60 minute workout. A short walk, deep breathing, or a few stretching exercises may be helpful to relieve stress. It is also a proven fact that exercise can release endorphins that help you deal with stress. Six, participate in relaxing activities. Find something that you enjoy doing, such as reading a book or listening to music before the event. Relaxing before game, competition or other events may help provide a positive state of mind as you prepare to watch your child participate in their activity. Seven take a break. If your emotions begin to escalate while in the stands a brief timeout may help you reset your emotions. It could be as simple as taking a restroom break a trip to the concession stand for a short walk at the 24 hour rule. If you ever feel compelled to confront a coach, take some time to collect your thoughts and allow your emotions to settle before you do. If after 24 hours you still feel compelled to address an issue. call and schedule an appointment. Not be responsible. Be responsible in your decision making. You are a role model and it is important to understand that not only is your child watching, but so are other participating students. Be aware Instead of good example, for all the young people in attendance 10 support your students. There are a lot of ways to let your students know that you are a supportive parent. Tell them that you love watching them participate, or how proud you are the sacrifices they make to be part of a team. Once again, focus on the fun. Be a good listener when your student needs you. supporting them and understanding their feelings, hopes and dreams can help you build on your trusting and loving relationship. Be aware that you will experience many emotions while sitting in the parents. Realizing there are challenges that come with the territory is an important step in supporting your students participation in Interscholastic activities. Students learn so much from their experiences that only activities can uniquely provide. You want your students to enjoy being part of a team and community without having to worry about what you miss say or do in the stands. When your student looks back on their high school experience, what you want them to remember, the experience should be enjoyable for you, beneficial for your student, and hopefully provides an opportunity to build a closer bond with your child. that opportunity begins now in the parents

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